Remembering your baby
There are many ways to remember and honor your baby on his or her special dates. Here are some suggestions for you and your family to consider as you plan how to commemorate your baby’s special days.
Plan how you would like to remember your child on his or her birthdate, anniversary date, or due date. Those dates will be difficult, but it is much easier to get through the day if you have planned how you want to spend the day.
Donate a toy to a local hospital or shelter serving children
Plant a tree, shrub, or flower in memory of your child
Donate a camera or teddy bear to a local hospital in memory of your child
Have a memorial service for family and friends
Make a memory garden in your yard
Decorate your child’s gravesite if you have one
Keep a journal or write a letter to your child on each special day. Express your thoughts on how you think he or she might look and act each year. Tell your child how much he or she is loved and missed. Our babies already know we love them and miss them but it helps us to express our feelings.
Have a balloon release - some families choose to release one balloon for each year - one for the first, two on the second, and so on
Talk to family members or friends and encourage them to share their thoughts and feelings about your child
Decide ahead of time if you want to work on your child’s special day or if you need to take the day off. This will depend on how you are doing emotionally and whether you receive emotional support at work. You may need to be off one year and work the next - this can be totally up to you. Only do what you are comfortable with.
Select a special remembrance of your baby from a special website. Some examples include
https://pinksaltriot.com/collections/miscarriage-child-loss-rememberance
https://www.redbird.love/store-1
